I made this post on help.com to get different view points and have a discussion.
Breast feeding in public?
I think it’s totally fine as long as you’re careful no one sees anything, by using a towel or a blanket or something. But some people just think it’s disgusting and is even outlawed in some places, which I think is ridiculous. I think the law should say ‘it’s fine, so long as you hide your titties’.
Do you think shop owners should be allowed to outlaw it in their store/cafe if they’re afraid it’ll bother customers? Or if they’re so worried, should they have to provide a couch or chair in some place private for them?
What do you all think? :) Thanks!
I also put this up on Yahoo answers. Everyone pretty much agreed with me, but here are the links.
The first thing, about everyone leaning on you but you having no one… have you ever tried leaning on them? That’s what friends are for… and if they don’t let you lean on them than they’re not great friends. Every relationship must be win-win, or else you must drop the people from your life and never look back.
About your looks… attractive people have the same self-esteem problems that anyone does. Like money, attractiveness is relative and if you’re hotter than your friends, at that stage you start comparing yourself to people in the media, the ones that that have had the living guts Photoshopped out of them.
In other words, they’ve adjusted to the experience of being attractive the same as our high income earners have adjusted to having money; they just pick other flaws to worry about. Sure, if you used the magical artifact up there to become Angelina Jolie tomorrow, you’d notice the difference over how you’re treated now. But if you were born Angelina Jolie, you’d have no way of grasping it, the same as right now you don’t realize what it’s like to live life with some kind of horrible deformity.
You know how when the hot girl at the bar tells an unfunny joke, all the guys laugh anyway? Or when the office stud makes a mistake, the female boss laughs it off?
Attractive people live in a world where most feedback they get is bull. The compliments mean nothing–they’ve learned that’s just the sound people make when they walk by. That’s why studies show they tend to dismiss the genuine compliments they get in other areas (their work, personality, sense of humor, creativity) because it gets lumped in with the same counterfeit flattery they’ve been getting their whole lives.
I also know you want a boyfriend, but seriously don’t worry about it. You just have to understand that the goal of each desire is to bring happiness. So each time you find yourself wanting something… ask yourself if it will really make you happy, or just bring you pleasure. You must understand the difference between happiness and pleasure. Pleasure cannot be sustained beyond the activity or object, happiness can. It is also important to understand that “happiness” is something that can be pursued and obtained. Let me tell you, it is not. No matter what life situation you’re in (provided it’s not something extremely horrible like being chained in a kidnappers basement or starving to death Africa) the amount of good days and bad days you have will not change. Our brains are programmed to want more more more because that’s how we as animals in the wild survived. But we’re not in the wild anymore, we can not focus on thriving instead of just surviving. So no matter what goal you reach, it’ll never be enough.
So how, then, do we be over all happy? It relies %100 and I MEAN %100 on attitude. You feel badly about not having a boyfriend or not being white because that is how you CHOOSE to think of it. But if you realize that, if you be patent and know that a great man will come along one day, you’ll be content and not worry about it. You’ll know that your life would not improve in any way if you had white skin. In fact, you’d be laying in the sun all day trying to be tan. White is not hot, that’s why we have to work at being darker unlike some other lucky people (like Hispanics, for example) who are born that way.
Dose any of that make sense?
**IMPORTANT EDIT:
that “happiness” is something that CANNOT be pursued and obtained.
Let me tell you, that is true. (instead of “Let me tell you, it is not”)
I really need to read over my replies before I send them… lolz.
**ANOTHER IMPORTANT EDIT
We can NOW focus on thriving instead of just surviving. Not “not”! lolz.
(I really need to finish reading before making edits…;; lolz! Sorry about the mistakes, I hope I got the message across)
If you go to a department store, the women behind the counters will give you a make over and tell you exactly what you need. Otherwise, go to the grocery store and discreetly open the bottle and rub some on your wrist.. if it matches then it’s close enough. That’s what a lot of women do since department stores are more expensive =P lolz.
OK, make sure you go on a Wednesday morning if at all possible. That is when there will be the least amount of people and therefore the most amount time for them to pay attention to you. Avoid going later in the day, the closer to closing time the worse because they’ll be scrambling to make their daily sales quota and pressure you into buying things, so you’ll probably end up spending more than you need too. Make sure you tell them weather or not you’re really planning on buying today, they’ll like that a lot because there’s almost nothing worse than spending time and resources on someone only to find out they’re not serious, so it’ll be a nice thing to do to just take that little worry away from them, like a good deed. All right! That’s about all you need to know, good luck and have fun!
It all happened so suddenly. The man he had admired since attending the ninja academy, the one he thought he hated for so long. The one he had become practical brothers with... then nearly lost to the temptations of revenge and evil. The one he had chased for years, trying to save him from that inner temptation that almost led to bother their demise, was standing here in the shade of a blooming sakura tree. His open chested shirt showing the chiseled perfection like marble. No matter how much hate he had built up in his heart, the love of one boy shone through like a light in a forest of darkness.
"Naruto..." He said in a deep, sexy voice. "You have really inconvenienced me." This was just like him, putting his feelings as negatively as possible.
"Sasuke, is this really why you've returned?" Naruto asked. Sasuke had come back out of the blue, claiming he loved the blonde boy. However he was suspicious of the Uchiha, and rightfully so. After all, you don't just get everything you ever wanted and more right out of the blue, do you?
"I'm afraid so." He leaned against the tree, his jet black hair softly blowing in the wind. He started to have second thoughts about coming here. He didn't say anything else, just looked in some random spot in the distance.
Naruto blushed, Sasuke had just given him a love confession. Having never been in this situation before, he didn't quite know how to respond. The thing he could think of was another love confession... but how do you go about doing that? Sasuke was acting like this was no big deal. But it was, it was a very big deal indeed. The blonde found himself feeling angry now, how could someone play with another person's feelings like this? It wasn't fair! "I'm not just some robot you can do whatever you want with ya know!"
Sasuke looked up at him, surprised at the sudden seriousness of Naruto's tone. "What do you mean?" He asked, finding himself hoping he hadn't hurt the boy in some way... then feeling almost disgusted with himself for hoping such a pointless thing. But was it pointless...? The old Sasuke would have said yes, but things were different now... he no longer could ignore the throbbing in his heart.
"You think you can come here, confess your love then just stand there like it's no big deal!??" Naruto said angrily. "How can you just play with someone's emotions like that??" He felt himself start to cry, but held back as hard as he could. He would NOT let Sasuke see him like that!
Sasuke looked at him a bit surprised for a second. Little outbursts like these were nothing unusual for Naruto, but this one actually made him feel an emotional disturbance. But how could he properly show him how he really felt? Sasuke had no experience in this department and didn't prethink about any sort of plan.. he was on his own here, having no honest to gawd clue what he was doing. "Naruto..." He couldn't think of anything to say, in fact he didn't even know if Naruto returned his feelings. "I, uh... I don't mean to be cold. I'm just not... experienced with this sort of thing." He looked down, feeling bad that he had hurt Naruto.
The blonde immediately felt bad for snapping at him like that. It wasn't his fault... he just didn't know the proper way to show someone you love them. He took a few steps forward, to which Sasuke looked up at, and stood barely a few inches from his face. "You were my first kiss, that time was an accident. But the second time doesn't have to be..." He leaned in and tilted his head slightly, gently pressing his lips against Sasuke's.
At first the Uchiha didn't know what to do. He stood there, at first motionless with shock... but after a few seconds he found himself relaxing, kissing him back. In his head, he thought 'what the hell am I doing!?' but his body moved on its own as he placed his hand on the back of Naruto's head, and other around his wast.
This was a post I made on help.com. Below are the post and the replies.
This is why I gave up graphic design… no, I didn’t give up on it, I ran the f-uck away from it! How could i live with myself knowing I actively contribute one of the most obnoxious poisons of our time?
You can’t even watch an internet video anymore without frequently being interrupted by some stupidass commercial. Is you tube REALLY that much in desperate need for money? Sometimes there’s even a little arrow on the bottom of the video reminding you of that ad you xed out of that WON’T FREAKING GO AWAY.
If everyone became emotionally healthy, the economy would collapse and never recover… being a consumer is a life of hunger that can never be satisfied. Nothing is good enough, nothing can satisfy the hunger of the modern consumer. That’s why they’re called “consumers”. And behind the faces of of those big evil companies making these commercials.. are poor souls who are honestly no different from the rest of us. They’re after your money so they can hand it over to other companies, so the people from those companies can hand over the money to another big company…
Oh how I wish I could see the day when people stop this vicious cycle of misery and greed. Virtually every religion and philosophy in existence warns about greed and has some law or rule stating you should stay away from it… greed is the root of virtually all the other 7 deadly sins (even if you’re not catholic, you have to agree those are best avoided).
Sadly… that day may never come.
"Ads have gotten crazy, but a lot of our television has got more expensive - and there are a lot more channels so this needs to be funded in some way. Its annoying but here in the UK we have the BBC which has no ad’s but you have to pay a TV licence. I’d rather have the ads. Also, how great is it we can watch things online now?
Some adverts can be good, my boyfriend works in advertising and there ARE some good ones - a lot of not good ones though."
"Me: Yeah, I don’t mind the commercials on TV too much, they keep it less expensive and now a days you can fast forward right through them. But online is it REALLY necessary to have to go through 2 or 3 adds on how to wash my none-existent balls and how I can save money on insurance for my none-existent car. Even if the add happens to be relevant to me like for shampoo that gets rid of frizzy hair, I don’t want any part of it!! Not to say some commercials aren’t fun anyway (super bowl) or good (foundation for a better life ones are usually cute). But there is a point where it’s just too much…"
This has got to be one of the most freaking adorable animes I've ever seen!! It's about the adventures of a little kitten named Chi. She is so adorable! However, she was named after pee, which I think is gross. This anime also confused the hell out of me when it comes to the Japanese language, but I suppose that'll never change!!
It started as a manga which I found at the book store. I was delighted to find an anime of it (I'd rather read, but watching is more convenient). However, all of them seem to have been mirrored, and weather the author wrote them left to right on purpose I don't know, but it doesn't really make sense if she did.
When I found out that the demographic for this anime is men age 20 - 40 I was shocked! Why on earth would men of that age want to watch the adorable adventures of a little kitten? However, from episode one something DID feel a little off about the whole thing... and I think that's what it is. Why would you waste something so appealing to girls of all ages on men who would probably much rather watch something else anyway? But... this IS the country that sells canned vaginas in vending machines so... who knows.
Adult men totally get off to this
Each Episode is only about 3 minuets long, which makes it really easy to watch though the starting can get a little annoying. And... other than that there isn't much else to say. I give it 5 out of 5 stars! It's adorable, fun to watch, but the demographic they aim it at makes it seem a little off. In any case, I loved it!
I've posted some stuff in other places recently that I think are really important. I'll probably read it again someone day and cringe, but for now it makes total sense.
This one is a comment I left for one of David's blog posts.
This almost made me want to cry… I was honking and actually following for a while someone on the road because they NEVER used their turn signal and it pissed me off monumentally. Turned out to be a couple of big dudes who looked like they could lift motorcycles, but what if there had been little kids in that car? Would they have noticed? What if it had scared them a lot?
I felt really bad and it didn’t help that my younger sister was in the car, watching all of this. Watching me take pleasure in harassing strangers in one of the most cowardly ways possible.
This is something that was on some help post. Turns out I misunderstood the girl mostly but I sure got my feelings across! lolz.
Poster: I could go into a trade right now if I wanted too. But unfortunatley, I do not have the thick skin that a trade requires. I have been working blue collar for awhile and I honestly can’t handle it. It not only destroys my body, but my mental health. The stress is so overwhelming, and the sense of failure I feel doing it. The sense of “I’m smarter than this”. . .
I don’t know what to do. I feel like I have to choose between being miserable and in pain for the rest of my life, or being thousands and thousands of dollars in debt, and almost being in my late 30’s by the time I can actually stop loosing my mind.[/quote]
Now hold on I almost take offense to that… Thick skin that a trade requires? Maybe the blue caller stuff is hard, but I’m going into Cisco Networking. My daddy did the same thing (only he learned it in the military) and now he makes over 81 grand a year. He never went to college. Does he sound like a failure to you? Besides, who the hell ever said you have to go to college to be happy? Where is it written? Actually, some studies show college kids are more miserable than those who didn’t go. A lot of people don’t pay off their college debt until they’re 30, so by trying to avoid debt you may actually be charging right into it. Does going to college even guarantee you’ll get a high paying job? Absolutely not. Several of my coworkers at Wal-mart make just as much as a teenager who never even went to high school went to college.
You think bringing a pay check to a large, luxurious home will make you happy? Did you know that in Haiti, the poor earth quake stricken country’s suicide rate is approximately 0%? And here we are in places like America offing ourselves one by one. What does that tell you? Another thing… Nigeria came out as one of the top countries for over all happiness while America sports 16th…
Here’s one more fun fact: The idea that happiness is something you can pursue and obtain is extremely new. In ancient Greece, they thought happiness was something you had when the gods were kind enough to give it to you. They never even thought it was something they could do for themselves. OK, here’s a ton more fun facts: Some languages don’t even have a word for ‘happiness’.
“Happiness” is not something you can ‘obtain’ or ‘pursue’. Especially by going to college or living up to the typical American standard. I could live in a big mansion or a little cottage my amount of good days and bad days will not change. I could bring home 5 million dollars or %500 and my amount of good and bad days will not change and neither will anyone else’s.
Something else good to know: If you think about it, it becomes clear that if America became emotionally healthy and didn’t feel like they needed to race around like rats and buy buy buy, big houses and cars and expensive educations the economy would collapse and NEVER recover. This need has been put into us by companies so you will buy their stuff, and they can then have money to buy the stuff they’ve been brainwashed into thinking they need. It’s a vicious cycle.
So go ahead, climb the cooperate latter and become like the rest of the greedy miserable rats. I’m going to live my pathetic simple life as a poor soul who could only manage to learn a trade! I’ll be so sad with my smaller pay check… looking up at the light of “happiness” shining from you and wishing I would have only sacrificed my health, time spent with important people, and life entirely on the never ending chase for mone- I mean, “Happiness”!!
So… if “happiness” is not something you can really pursue and obtain… then.. what is it..?
It’s attitude.
Put two people in the exact situation. Exactly pay check and life quality, weather that’s a mansion life style or a little apartment type deal. Give one a good attitude, and one a bad. Those with the good attitude will be very happy, no matter which general life you give them. The ones with the bad attitude however… will not.
Weather you graduated from Harvard or Job Corps is irrelevant.
Weather you make a million dollars a year or minimum wage is irrelevant (though if you have a family you may need more than minimum to eat, that is something you want to be able to spend money on, but that is beside the point)
Weather you live in a standard home or an apartment is irrelevant.
All of that means absolutely nothing. No matter where you are in life, the quality of it will depend %100 on attitude.
If there is something you love doing that college can help you achieve, go for it. Otherwise, if it’s all about money, you’ll just make yourself miserable. Going through all of that stress and debt… when you could have made good money with free education with Job Corps (people who graduate from there make good size pay checks, honestly). So here’s one of the most important pieces of advice I have ever gotten:
Don’t go to college for money, go for love.
College doesn’t guarantee you anything, so why go through the trouble unless it’s for something you really care about? (Which should not be money).
Sorry for going off on a rant, but the [quote]the sense of failure I feel doing it. The sense of “I’m smarter than this”. . .[/quote]
ting kind of set me off. Also, there is A LOT more than just blue caller junk in the trades. I certainly couldn’t do any of that either!
Also, here’s where the attitude thing comes in again.
You were treated differently? so was I. I never went to school, at all, not even once. I was behind in everything especially social skills. It doesn’t help that I have a baby face… they treated me like I was some little girl who wanted to hang out with the “big kids”. Do you know how self esteem destroying that is? Especially being OLDER than most of them? Of course I don’t understand your latest.. phrase or craze I don’t go to public school it doesn’t mean you have to treat me like a 10 year old!
It bothered me for years. I did everything to prove myself and boy gally I did. They’ve not afraid to share dirty jokes with me anymore! I’m no longer the ‘cute little one’ they felt protective of.
You and I are not that different… we were treated different and that made us determined to prove ourselves to those who did this to us. Well, I’ve been there, and where am I now? Wishing I hadn’t bothered. I put myself through a lot of stress and misery all so I could say “I told you so”. It really isn’t worth it, I wish I had had a better attitude about the whole thing. Because honestly who the hell cares what they think?
You don’t have ANYTHING to prove to ANYBODY. They can go f*** themselves, you just do what you want. What do you want from life? Do you want to be a doctor? Go for college! Do you want to be a simple house wife and raise a family? Go for a nice cushy trade you can stop and go at anytime! Why should you spend all of your valuable time as a young person stressing out and paying off thousands of college dollars just to say “I told you so” to a bunch of people? Even if it’s your own mother.
I will not waste my time trying to make everyone around me happy or even trying to prove anything to anybody. This is the good kind of selfishness, baby.
I’m 19, everyone around me even my little brother has gone off the college. I know for a fact that when they talk about me, they say similar things people have probably said to you. But mostly that I’m lazy, unmotivated, trying to find the easy way out. They can all sit on an icepick, I don’t care I don’t I don’t caaaaaare ba dum ba dum!
If ever there was an anime that truly captures the Japanese spirit... this is it. My Bride is a Mermaid is so ridiculous that ONLY Japan could have thought it up. It's about a high school freshmen who has to marry a mermaid because she saved him. However the boy got his first kiss from an (apparently) attractive man named Massa so he gets all dreamy whenever the grown man is in the room. In one episode, Nagasumi (the boy) turns into a naked giant and gets rocked to the moon until Sun (the mermaid) throws a magical spear all the way from earth that pierces his head and he deflates back to earth like a balloon.
That is only a small example is this anime's ridiculousness. It's complete with extremely unsubtle lesbian innuendo, cross dressing, and TONS of chibi faces from even the most serious of characters.
In short, I loved it. You have to be a true otaku to enjoy something like this! Most Americans would view it as stupid and even a little disturbing (see above snapshot of the anime) but I on the other hand and I'm sure many an otaku find this awesome and hilarious. Gotta love Japan!
However, I have seen better. Maybe it's just differing taste in humor so I give this 4 out of 5 stars!
Ideally, all it stands for is the right for women to be treated equally to men. However, it seems as though women are on the road of assuming a position above men, much like how places such as fire departments and police stations accept applicants based on staff diversity rather than competence (less qualified black people are being favored over more qualified white people (not that there are not perfectly qualified people of all races))
I feel that the same is happening with feminism.
So I am not a feminist, I am a what I can only think to call a “genderist”. Not favoring women, just wanting each gender to respect one another.
Think about it: on an episode of 16 and Pregnant one of the girls was violent toward her boyfriend. MTV did a little “domestic violence isn’t cool” thing with it, but if it had been flipped that guy would have gotten his as$ sent to jail. But since it was merely a man being abused, there was no need to press charges.
And don’t think it’s because women are physically weaker, some girls can kick as$. Even so, it shouldn’t matter. Despite the ability to harm, the intention is the same.
I haven't blogged in a while, so naturally there is a lot that has changed. But I don't want to go through and write a post about each thing, so here is some little blurbs about the happenings in the inbetween:
Carts aren't that big a deal anymore. But now that I don't have a problem, they want to move me to apparel. Apparently the 6 month waiting period between positions doesn't matter anymore like it did 3 months ago when they were threatening to fire me. Because, that's how fucking good my folding skills are or some such shit.
Kajimaru is gone... I had him when I clocked out, then I didn't have him. Some bitch or bastard probably has their filthy, slimy disgusting paws on him. Deleting his music and changing his name.... oh Kajimaru, I miss you. Luckily Matt had an old one he wasn't using.
Job Corps is turning out to be poorly managed. http://jobcorpsfraud.wordpress.com/ So I'm thinking of going to freaking Alaska, thinking it might be safer since I imagine there would be less "ghetto" there.
Joni left. Transferred to a Phoenix store. I hope she's doing all right, working isn't as much fun without her.
Things between Tayler and I aren't any better. She and Brian became friends, and her wild imagination led her to be a bitch to him, surprise surprise, so I chewed her out then left without responding much. Seriously Tayler, think things through before you go being a bitch to people. She was like "he hurt me!!! whaaaa!!!" My brother didn't do A THING to her and she treated him badly for it. That's what pissed me off and made it my business. But I won't say much with Brian. Now if she does the same to Samantha, I'm going to murder her.
There is no action you can take, no goal you can achieve, no possession you can own, no person you can marry, no career you can have, no amount of goodness you can do that will bring you the modern idea of "happiness".
The amount of good days and bad days will differ very little between the rich man and the poor man.
There is no finish line, it is physically impossible to obtain this kind of happiness our culture says you’re suppose to have anyway.
This is why we must adopt a good attitude, toward everyone and everything.
We must detach ourselves from possessions, and not put the responsibility of our own "happiness" on someone else’s shoulders, they can't give it to you anymore than you can give it to yourself.
Don’t worry about collecting so much money, it really isn’t that important.
Even your children can live without cable, the latest gadgets, and a huge house. All you need to afford are the basics, working to earn to much more than that is time that could have been spent with family. And the extra money you do earn, should be spent on experiences, not things.
